How to Let Go of Negative Thoughts and Feelings Table of Contents Introduction Understanding Negative Thoughts and Feelings The Importance of Letting Go of Negative Thoughts and Feelings Practical Steps on How to Let Go of Negative Thoughts and Feelings Maintaining a Positive Mindset Conclusion Introduction Hey there! We all know that life can sometimes […]
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Freeing Yourself from Limiting Beliefs – The Elephant Rope Story Table of Contents Introduction The Elephant Rope Story Interpretation of the Story Identifying Limiting Beliefs The Impact of Limiting Beliefs Strategies for Freeing Yourself from Limiting Beliefs The Power of Positive Beliefs Conclusion I. Introduction Have you ever felt trapped by your own thoughts? Like
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Feeling Insecure? Understand What Are The Causes of Your Lack of Confidence! Table of Contents Introduction Understanding Confidence Recognising Lack of Confidence What Are The Causes of Lack of Confidence: Biological Factors What Are The Causes of Lack of Confidence: Psychological Factors What Are The Causes of Lack of Confidence: Sociocultural Factors Chronic Stress
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Turning Problems Around Have you noticed how much easier it is to notice something that’s wrong as opposed to noticing all the things that are just going along nicely? Even more noticeable over the last couple of weeks as Election fever swept the nation. Each politician in turn pointing out to us what was wrong
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So it’s New Year’s Eve again. Are you reflecting back on a wonderful year and hoping next year brings more of the same? Or can you not wait to see the back of this one and think that the next couldn’t get any worse? Whatever you’re current mindset January 1st can act as a signpost
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So tomorrow it will finally be Christmas Day. Hopefully the weather hasn’t disrupted your plans and preparations too much and you can settle down and enjoy the day with those who are nearest and dearest to you. Now, chances are we’ve not met yet but I’m going to do a little mind reading. Over the
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This week’s tip comes from the mental file called “Why are the simple ones usually the most powerful?” When I work one to one with people, often I’ll offer a free initial session – what I call “coffee and a chat”. It’s a great opportunity for someone to come over without pressure or financial commitment,
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Most of us have been there. Driving to work in the cold and rain, fed up, tired through lack of sleep, wishing we could be going anywhere other than where we are headed – and then something almost magical happens. Suddenly, on the radio, you hear a familiar tune. Your mood lifts instantly as you
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I had lunch recently with a female friend of mine. We were chatting and eating when she confided in me that she hated other women. Shocked, I asked her what she meant, surely she didn’t hate everyone?! She said she actively looks for flaws when she meets other women. Her internal dialogue is an endless
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The turn of the year has traditionally been a time of New Year’s Resolutions; new beginnings, dropping bad habits and learning new ones. You know… New Year New You! A recent survey, however, suggested that 8 out of 10 people in the UK won’t even bother to make them this year. The top two reasons
Making Stopping Smoking Easier Part Two Last week we started to talk about the number one New Year’s Resolution, to Stop Smoking and the steps to take in order to give yourself the best chance of being successful. We looked at the “Stopping List”. This is a list of 20 reasons why you want to
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Happy New Year! I hope the festive period was a truly great one for you and you’re looking forward to this year with excitement and anticipation. It always fascinates me what the turn of a new year does to people psychologically. Many use it as a signpost and opportunity to improve their life by making
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As we move deeper into winter and daylight hours get shorter, how are you feeling? Are you having difficulty getting up? Have a lack of energy? Craving carbohydrates or comfort foods? Feeling sleepy in the day or losing interest in work or other activities? If so, you’re not alone! Around 20% of the population suffers
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Wake up and Smell the Coffee. Have you ever had the experience of walking into somewhere and being hit by a wonderful aroma? You may have walked into a bakery and smelt freshly baked bread, enjoyed inhaling the scent of coffee in your favourite coffee shop or been absorbed by the fragrance in a florist.
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Join the Dots for Success. My son, Declan, has just moved up to Year 4 in our local school. As the children are growing up they are given more freedom and responsibility for their learning. He came home from school this week and told me about the approach they take in some of his classes
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How to Stop Blushing It’s not surprising that in today’s image conscious society that blushing causes many people to feel uncomfortable. If you suffer from blushing you’ll understand how restrictive and painful it can be and you’ll want to know how to stop blushing. Blushing can cause extreme sufferers to withdraw from social and business
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What if Big Brother was watching you? This week saw the return of the Channel 4 phenomenon Big Brother for the 11th and final time. I’m writing this before the housemates have been revealed, so I’m not going to comment on the people in the house this year. However, what is certain is that their
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3 Steps to Exam Calmness Stress is a part of every student’s life, especially around exam time. For some struggling students, the stress of preparing for exams is overwhelming. Unfortunately, this can translate into poor exam results. But stress does not have to take over the student’s life. These three tips should help every student
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The Gift of Happiness We’ve been talking in this column over the last couple of weeks about the pursuit of happiness. Today I’d like you to think about a concept that might seem a little unusual at first, but if done correctly, could have a major impact on your life. I know that for many
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In Pursuit of Happiness I’ve been working a lot lately with people who weren’t initially sure whether they should come to see me or not. Their dilemma is that they know they aren’t happy at the moment, but don’t consider that they have anything seriously bad going on in their life to justify coming for
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I’ll be Happy When………. When I’m out socialising and people find out what I do for a living, I feel privileged that they are genuinely interested and curious about what I do. Some people ask questions or tell me about things in their life that they are not happy with and what they should do.
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Put Some Play in Your Day I was contacted recently by the people behind the National Lottery and asked to conduct some research as part of their “Put Some Play in Your Day” Scratchcard campaign. I was tasked with completing a workplace study into the effects of play breaks on workers’ productivity. Now, I’ve long
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Life begins ………… now! I remember as a young boy seeing adverts for Saga holidays and over 50s insurance schemes and thinking how ancient people over 50 must feel. My Grandparents were over 50 for a start and they were my parents (who also appeared old of course despite only being in their mid thirties)
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Got a Problem? Call in the CIA We can be happily going along in life without a care in the world and then suddenly life throws something at us. It may be sudden or something that has been building up over time comes to a head. Often these situations catch us unawares and can instantly
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Send Yourself Some Valentine Love So it’s Valentine’s Day again this Sunday. For some it will be a wonderfully romantic occasion of trips away, flowers and chocolates. For others it might not be such a pleasant experience. This Valentine’s Day though, keep a little bit of that loving for yourself. I hear so many times
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How to Break Free from Negativity It seems that everywhere we turn, we face negativity. At home, at work, on television and in almost every newspaper headline it seems that there is always something negative to be seen. This can have a big effect on the way people think and feel throughout their daily lives.
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Make This Your Best Year So Far A new year, a new decade even. How are you feeling? I mean apart from the hangover, are you looking forward to this year? For a lot of people that can depend on how last year was. How would it feel if I told you this could be
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Six Steps to Resolution Success Have you made any New Year resolutions? Over 70% of the population do. However by February half of these resolutions will have been broken, leaving people feeling defeated and knocking their self esteem. If this sounds like you don’t worry…… it’s not actually your fault! How would you like this
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On Reflection, Life Starts Now As we approach Christmas and the New Year, a lot of people reflect on how the year was for them. Some even take it further. If there’s a milestone birthday coming up people often reflect on how life has been so far. How are things for you? Do you look
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Banish Negative Self Beliefs Having self confidence is really important in all aspects of your life, both personal and professional. But having a high self esteem can be difficult until you learn to banish negative self beliefs. A person’s opinion of themselves is usually formed during childhood and learned from parents, teachers and other important
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Three Simple Steps to Build Your Self-Esteem Issues of self esteem and perceptions of self worth have come to the forefront recently, especially with the great work done by Dove’s Campaign for Real Beauty. Magazine coverage of weight issues from models and Hollywood stars, deaths of family members or friends, past or current instances of
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Have an “Average” Day My mind works in unusual ways sometimes. As I write this I’m looking forward to a trip to Legoland tomorrow. In fact I’m not sure who is more excited, me or my 7 year old son Declan. We were chatting about what we thought it might be like and
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Unleash the Power of Persistence I read a news story this week that really made me smile. It was one of those stories that really made me stop and think about so many different things. It was a story about a football team in Carlisle, Harraby Athletic under 14’s. When the team was formed 3
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How to Embrace Change One of the things that people often tell me that they struggle with is change. Now, there can be no denying that with the shift in the global economic climate big changes are happening. Whether that be a loss of job, reduced income or relationship breakdown. However, it’s not just those
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How to Build-Self Confidence When we are going about our daily lives one of the most vital things can affect us is confidence, or the lack of it. We all need confidence from time to time to help us deal with whatever life throws at us, whether that be meeting new people, going for an
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We’ve all been there haven’t we? We set out with the greatest intentions to do something that will be of great benefit to us. It might be that new gym membership, a work project, a college course, quitting smoking or deciding that it’s about time we lost that extra stone we’ve been meaning to. Then
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We all have a set of beliefs for every area of our lives; whether that be money, success, relationships, body image, you name it we have beliefs about it. We learn our beliefs, either consciously or sub-consciously, as we grow up. Those beliefs are very powerful and shape the decisions that we make and/or limits
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I’m not quite sure where he’s got it from but from time to time my seven year old son declares that it should be “Opposite Day”. This is a topsy, turvy day when everything you say or do has to be the opposite. Hilarious to a seven year old! Today he has declared an Opposite
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One of the major barriers that can hold people back in life is the inability to make decisions quickly. People can so easily get stuck when making a decision that it can almost appear better not to make a choice at all, rather than risking making the wrong one. They don’t even have to be
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This weekend I’ll be travelling to London to present the Miss England Final. I’ll be combining presenting on stage with keeping the contestants calm and confident backstage. Part of the show this year is an “Eco” round where instead of buying something new, the girls have to re-cycle clothing from yesteryear and make it stand
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Taking your car into the garage for a service or M.O.T. is routine but when did you last have yourself “checked out”? I recently took my car to be serviced. When I got my car back I could tell instantly that it was running better than ever. It got me thinking that, arguably, our mind
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How are you feeling? Are you OK? If you’ve been paying attention to the media, watching what’s going on in the political world, keeping an eye on global as well as local events it’s possible that you aren’t OK. I seem to have been talking a lot to people about the power of positive thought
When people I meet for the first time find out find out what I do for a living I feel lucky that a lot of them find it interesting and want to know more. I also don’t mind them taking me to one side and asking me questions about their lives and issues. It’s at
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I work with a lot of people who are struggling with something in their lives. This might be low self-esteem, confidence issues or they may just be stuck and frustrated with an area of their lives. Quite often we will get on to the subject of that voice in their head. I ask them what
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We recently adopted a rabbit (Freddie) from an Animal Rescue. He’s a beautiful, 8 month old, brown male Lionhead. When we brought him home we made him a sleeping area out of a box and gave him the run of the house so he could get used to us. However, I noticed something interesting. Although
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We’ve all had experiences of suspecting that all is not well with someone we care about. We desperately want to help them, but whenever we try to talk to them they just clam up and say nothing is wrong and they’re fine – although we’re pretty sure they’re not. A lot of people are struggling
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Today is “World Storytelling Day”. Adults and children all across the globe will be celebrating the art of storytelling by telling and listening to stories. I thought I would share one of my favourite short stories with you as a way for us to join in. It’s adapted from “The Star Thrower” by Loren Eiseley.
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Have you noticed how as we get older, life seems to speed up? I remember feeling as a child that the summer holidays seemed to go on forever and Christmas took an age to come around again. It seems, as we hit the middle of March, that almost a quarter of the year has gone
